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August 07 2017

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this is good

I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, and if you see something that concerns you, wait until they’re calm, and then talk to them about it.

My husband used to yell when he got frustrated, but after I explained to him that I found it upsetting, he stopped yelling and started consciously working on asking for help before he got to that level of frustration.

When I’m upset over something, or just in a bad mood, I tend to withdraw. My husband explained to me that it makes him feel like I’m mad at him, so now when I need some space, I’ll tell him what I’m upset about, or that I’m in a bad mood for no particular reason, and I need to be alone for a little while.

See your friends and partners at their worst, but don’t assume that their worst is immutable. If someone loves and cares about you, they’ll try to accommodate you to the best of their ability.

This is the best advice I’ve ever seen on this site, and it is so important. Communication is everything, and is 80% of the reason my husband and I have such a healthy, strong, and supportive relationship.

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oh i see, there was a second half to the thing i saw on twitter yesterday, and it’s hannah’s fault, thank you hannah

Please let’s not spread this without the context of the very next reply.

oh well that’s nicer then

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always reblog COMMUNIST TREK. <3

Star Trek is radical in so many ways people often forget.

The future that liberals want

Okay, Star Trek is somewhat inconsistent on this.

But if you apply some worldbuilding you put two things together:

1. Replicators

2. “No money.”

Futurists call this the “replicator economy” and we’re already seeing the start of it.

If I was a little bit richer, I would have bought a 3D printer last year.

When you have a 3D printer, you can download things from the internet and make them yourself for the cost of the raw materials. I have a 3D-printed cosplay prop that I printed on a library printer. They charged me the cost of the raw filament for it…it cost me less than $2 for the actual object. Probably $3-4 by the time I add in the paint. It’s made of a biologically created plastic.

In the works: Creating 3D printer filament out of old plastic shopping bags. (Which cannot be multi-stream recycled, it costs a fortune). This means that it won’t be long before a normal household can make toys and the like out of plastic shopping bags.

A true replicator uses cheap raw materials and waste to make useful things.

Let’s imagine, as an interim step, that somebody creates a clothing replicator. You feed it rags and it creates new clothes, from patterns you download from the internet.

So, you have an old T-shirt. It’s fine, but for a small hole and the pattern having rubbed off. You feed it into your clothing replicator and out comes a new T-shirt with a new design. No, we don’t have this yet, but we can and probably will.

What, at that point, happens to clothing shops? Oh, yes, you might still buy some clothes - and handmade clothing, put together by an actual human, is still going to have a cachet.

But the clothes from your replicator fit you perfectly. You don’t have a size any more. Every X months you stand in a 3D scanner, it takes every measurement, and then sends it to your replicator. If you’re pregnant (assuming we don’t have ectogenesis) you can actually have it adjust your favorite dress to make baby bump room. Just like that. The most comfortable item of clothing I own is my pleather bodysuit. Not coincidentally, it’s the only item of clothing I own that was made to my measurements.

None of what we wear fits.

So…right. What happens to clothing shops? What happens to spending large amounts of money on new clothes while we throw old clothes away or give them to Goodwill?

The economy slowly develops to the point where the means of production really is in the hands of people: As individuals.

Star Trek technology means that if Picard wants a new suit, he just programs a clothing replicator to take his measurements and make him a new suit. Some people like tailors, so Garak gets to stay in business.

And eventually, if all you actually need is raw material and information, you don’t need to buy very much…

…and you end up with a society without money. It’s not “communist” in any way that has ever been tried before because, well, it requires the underpinnings of that technology. (Just don’t think too hard about where the Enterprise’s food replicators get some of their raw material).

You end up with the only valuable thing being information and the only valuable skill being art - but it doesn’t matter, because you don’t need to work for a living any more. TNG reflects the only valuable skill being art in many ways, in fact. Data’s painting. The chamber orchestra. Geordi’s hobby of designing holodeck programs. Everyone makes art, not because it’s the one thing machines can’t do, but because it’s the one thing humans (and others) won’t let the machines take over.

And that’s absolutely a future to work towards.

You end up with the only valuable thing being information and the only valuable skill being art

Well, and raw materials. And replicators. And energy. And physical space. And a wide variety of non-material goods like club memberships. And health care. And it’ll take longer than you may think to get completely away from growing crops because plants are really fucking efficient at turning sunlight into calories. And non-art valuable skills include everyone you need to run a power plant or a mine (which is probably just people supervising the robots doing the labor, but still), probably everyone you need to run a spaceship because unless we’re really stupid all our mines are on the moon and asteroids, a wide variety of engineers to collaborate with the artists on designing new replicator patterns, replicator repairpeople, park rangers, administrators, doctors, therapists…

Oh, absolutely, but what we see in Star Trek is mature technology, a society that’s already made that transition.

Also, they do still grow crops. Picard’s family has a vineyard, after all.

Fully Automated Luxury Communism.


#FullyAutomatedLuxuryGaySpaceCommunism, to be exact.

August 06 2017

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fat cat running

look at him… look at how deliberate each step and movement is. look at how mathematically perfect that 90 degree corner turn was… this cat is on another level far beyond us all

June 26 2017



self care is listening to the same song on repeat for 8 hours straight

quick reminder that this post is for autistics + ppl with adhd

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I think a lot of people misinterpret my focus on redemption and empathy as brushing abusive behavior under the rug, and I want to clarify my perspective on that.

I think there’s a huge, huge difference between “this person fucked up, but we’re going to try to help them move forward” and “this person did nothing wrong”. I spend a lot of time thinking about criminals’ rights and how we can reintegrate wrongdoers in a dignified and productive way. Like, a lot. That doesn’t mean I forget for a second that they have, in fact, done something wrong.

It’s not that I believe abusive people are perfect angels who have done no wrong. It’s that I believe in a society where doing wrong is something you can come back from. And I think that’s very difficult to grasp when you subscribe to an angel/demon dichotomy. Either you’ve completely absolved a person or you’ve shunned them forever, so if you’re not doing the latter, then clearly you’re doing the former. Which is not at all what I’m striving for.

You can acknowledge that someone did something really, really shitty, or even a lot of somethings, and still desire a world that treats criminals in a more empathetic way. You don’t have to sugarcoat the abhorrent things that a lot of criminals have done to believe in their inherent dignity. I’m not for prison reform because I believe criminals are blameless. I’m for it because I think blamelessness is irrelevant to whether you should be treated like a human.


i hate when ppl say shit like BUT ANTIDEPRESSANTS ALTER YOUR BRAIN FUNCTION UNNATURALLY READ UP ON IT NURGGHH like yeah, youre right, they force it to produce serotonin so i can function, similar to how i take thyroxine bc my thyroid doesnt fucking make the right shit, similar to how people with diabetes take insulin, similar to how people with low iron take iron supplements, you thin slice of nutloaf

do you yell at people for eating food bc their body doesnt just naturally photosynthesize energy on its own





well since PWR BTTM is cancelled. time to break out the good ol’ list of “”LGBT bands and artists you might have heard of but if you haven’t, definitely need to be listening to them””**  my favs are gonna be bolded

The Cliks - if you haven’t heard Lucas cover ‘take me to church’ then go the fuck home. also, dirty king is a jam

LEIF - AMAZING gay rapper. 

Angel Haze - they’re perfect

Ladyhawke - funky autistic lesbian synthpop 

Eli Lieb - i honestly only listen to his lana covers BUT he does have some good original music lol

SÄLEN  - gay as fuck synthpop 

Spoonboy - Linus and Me is good. anything that’s punk w/ trumpets is A+ to me

Beth O’Reiley - gay as fuck and acoustic. does a lot of covers but her original songs are pretty great. 

Radical Face - gay man, makes rly chill music. gives me death cab vibes. but gay

Dodie Clark - bi and a beautiful voice. her ‘teenage dream’ cover with tessa violet is v gay

Years And Years - funky gay beats and rly good vocals

Wasi - Gay synthpop and its fucking amazing

Mykki Blanco - Hip Hop/R&B and rly fucking good

MIKA - theatrical shit. a little too campy for me. but some ppl rly like him

Neon Trees - “songs i can’t listen to” is my favorite by them

Passion Pit - didn’t know the lead singer was gay until recently bc im lame. but i love their music

WoodKid - tbh idk how to describe woodkid. but he’s gay and makes good music

PVRIS - reminds me of troye sivan but lesbian and way more rock

Beatrice Eli - “girls” is the gayest song ive heard in a long time 

Ria Mae - “clothes off” comes as a close second to the gayest song ive heard in a long time

Adore Delano - was on americna idol, became a drag queen, katy perry meets ke$ha but also gay

Courtney Act - was on australian idol as a drag queen, is actually genderqueer and a pretty good singer

Shura - chill vibe, late night car rides, kinda sad, kinda not. very lesbian

Pansy Division - gay greenday 

Perfume Genius - my sad gay husband tbh

Tom Goss - a little bit country a little bit rock n’ roll. all gay

Mr. Twin Sister - ‘Blush’ makes me wanna kiss a boy in a smokey bar 

Rostam - used to be apart of vampire weekend and his music had a lot of the same sound. (also check out vampire weekend lol)

the XX - a gay man and a lesbian make some sad tunes my dudes. the song “angels” took on a whole new meaning when i found out they were gay

Superfruit - The two gays from pentatonix have some good disco-style jams

**honourable mentions bc you’ve probably already heard of them: Sia, Debbia Harry/Blondie, Elton John, Freddie Mercury, Mary Lambert, Sam Smith, Troye Sivan, Frank Ocean, Hayley Kiyoko, Tegan and Sara, Todrick Hall, Willow Smith, Adam Lambert, The B-52s, 

Hayley Kiyoko isnt good either she never apologized for flagrantly appropriating Native American feather headdresses

some more!

now, now: a lesbian and a gay guy best-friend duo. they just released their first song in 5 years yesterday and it’s an amazing gay pop-rock anthem

sombear: the solo project of the guy in now, now

brandi carlile: a lesbian who writes really fucking good country music

PHASES: the frontwoman is bi, good-ass eighties-inspired dreamy pop

against me!: can’t believe this wasn’t on here already! they’re an iconic punk band and the frontwoman is trans and not straight.

some others i’ve only listened to a little bit but they’re lgbt and i like at least one song of theirs: russell elliott, brendan maclean, huntington, benny, zolita, kadie elder

bulldog eyes (trans woman & indie), the world is a beautiful place and i am no longer afraid to die (trans & indie, sounds similar to american football), car seat headrest (gay man & indie/lo-fi), G.L.O.S.S. (trans woman & punk), Syd/The Internet (lesbian & hip-hop/rap), Kaytranada (gay man & electronic/sort of r&b), Young MA (lesbian & rap), are some good ones i like

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familiar au: in which Nina gets to grow up, too, and Ed searches diligently for a way to fix everything. you deserved better, and this time Ed makes sure you get it.





“born this way” rhetoric argues that queer people shouldn’t be hated because “it’s not like they can help being queer”, and leaves room for “why would anyone choose to be queer?”, while still leaving many queer people out in the cold.

radical queer acceptance argues that queerness in itself is good, regardless of the reasons one may be queer, and includes all people who may consider themselves to be queer. that queerness shouldn’t be accepted because “it’s not like they choose to be queer”, but because queerness is good and the reasons behind being queer shouldn’t matter in the first place.

while still leaving many queer people out in the cold. is super important here

The way we discuss things internally has to be free from rhetoric used to make queerphobes less hostile. ‘born this way’ is super useful against ‘this choice is sinful’ when your community’s capacity to understand is poisoned by bias, but it’s got no place being treated as doctrine outside of that strategy. 

June 25 2017



okay, kiddies, buckle up because i’m about to talk about something thats been bothering me. y’all have got to stop saying you hope people die. or choke. or come to severe bodily harm. stop it. it’s nasty, rude, and uncalled for. tell people to stub their toe. tell them to miss their fucking bus. tell them you hope their mother is disappointed in them but stop fucking telling people to die its nasty and makes you no better than them

you know what’s fucking surreal?? that doing this has gotten so popular people will literally unfollow you for saying “don’t tell people to kill themselves” 

Knights do not help with the Genesis Frog







Come on, guys

Check it: http://www.mspaintadventures.com/scratch.php?s=6&p=005910

Karkat gave the universe cancer. Why? Because, as he said himself, he didn’t have enough… TIME.

Why didn’t Aradia help? She was a ghost who didn’t listen to anybody, save for the ghosts telling her what she has to do.
Here is their conversation: http://www.mspaintadventures.com/?s=6&p=004039

Who is ultimately responsible for her being dead? Doc Scratch.
And we all know that Lord English needs a broken, alone Gamzee for Lil Cal’s time loop.

It was Doc Scratch’s incredibly subtle manipulation that made sure Aradia wouldn’t assist Kanaya. This results in Karkat helping since he is much closer to Kanaya and resulting in an incomplete Genesis Frog

Friendly reminder: you will fuck up the Genesis Frog if anyone but a Time player helps

Exactly! Besides, not every session is going to have a Knight, but every successful session is going to have a Time player.


It’s called space-time, not space-knight.

Also this~

regarding “dfab/dmab” and “people with x” language



there’s a troubling pattern i’ve been seeing on tumblr.com (and to a lesser extent on the internet more generally) that i’d like to address 

i’ll start with a few examples. i’ve seen menstruation resource posts directed towards “dfab people” and “people with vaginas” by both trans people and well-meaning allies. but not all dfab people menstruate. not all people with vaginas menstruate. there are trans women with vaginas and there are cis women without uteruses. so why not say “people who menstruate?” 

i’ve also seen a breast cancer resource post directed towards “dfab people” and even “people with vaginas”, despite the presence of a vagina having no direct relationship to breast cancer. wouldn’t “people with breasts” or “people with estrogen-dominant hormone systems” be more appropriate, since breast cancer is an estrogen-driven cancer? 

i like “people with x” language because despite being a little more clunky than alternatives, it destabilizes the gender/sex relationship. even “dfab” contains the word “female,” leading to a lot of people (especially in radfem circles) to treat “dfabs” as one coherent, menstruating, breast-having monolith. which is really no different from what the cis mainstream does with the terms “man/woman” just dressed up in seemingly progressive language. 

the solution here is to actually Take A Second To Think About what specific bodily issue you are addressing. this is what “people with x” language was designed to do in the first place. it divorces body parts and bodily functions from“maleness” and “femaleness”, destabilizing those concepts. using “people with vaginas” in the same way you would use “woman” completely misses the point. 

if you are talking about muscle gain, talk about “people with testosterone/estrogen dominant bodies,” since hormonal balance is the main factor in how fast someone gains muscle. if you are talking about menstrual cups, talk about “people who menstruate.” if you are talking about how genitals contract STIs differently, then it is appropriate to say “people with vaginas” or “people with penises.”

TL;DR stop equating “people with X genitals” with “dfab/dmab” and stop conflating “dfab/dmab” with “female/male.” 

oh, one more thing i’m not sure is obvious: this post is about bodies and bodily functions exclusively. if you’re talking about women as an oppressed social class, that should include both trans and cis women. “people with X” language would not be appropriate. say ‘women.’ 

and honestly the terms “dfab” and “dmab” aren’t useful in many cases… it groups people with all sorts of different bodies together (trans women with cis men/trans men with cis women), so it isn’t useful in a biological sense. it isn’t useful in a social sense for the same reason… trans people do not have the same experience as cis people of the same birth assignment. 

the only time i can see dfab/dmab being useful is talking about how we treat infants and young children. or Maybe when saying “dmab/dfab trans ppl” since binary trans people may have overlapping issues with nonbinary trans people of the same birth assignment (e.g. binding, tucking).  otherwise there are just better terms to use.

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Tips for writing an essay with executive dysfunction: do this.

Write out bits and pieces of the essay. When you get to a part you can’t/”don’t want to” write, put it in bold brackets. Get as much done as you can and come back in a half an hour or so!

If the executive function is still bothering you, take it one bracket at a time. Don’t delete the bracket until you’re done “filling it in,” so to speak. If you need to take more breaks or hop to the next bracket, you can do that too! Similarly, if you have a thought you want to get down but you aren’t sure how to word it, put it in bold brackets as well!

It may not “cure” the executive dysfunction or procrastination problems, but it makes writing the essay more like putting shapes in holes of the same shape. It can be a pain, but the process is a bit more streamlined and user-friendly.

I know this may not work for everyone, but as someone who has really bad executive dysfunction and problems focusing (thank you, ADHD!) this works REALLY well for me! I hope by sharing it it can help other people (with and without executive dysfunction/adhd) too! o/


I do this too. I call it the “angry Karkat method” because I write my outline in red ALL CAPS and then fill in section by section in black underneath, and put ‘do this later’ or ‘look this up’ notes in bright red all caps as well. Works wonderfully.

Ancestry.com takes DNA ownership rights from customers and their relatives






I will take every opportunity to warn people against these genetics testing “services.” They are huge data mines and prospecting firms, and if you are Indigenous, your submission may be their way around tribal moratoriums against these sorts of collections.

Plus, they don’t mean anything as far as Indigenous identity.

Oh wow, read this. Excerpt, emphasis mine:

“Buried in the “Informed Consent” section, which is incorporated into the Terms of Service, Ancestry.com warns customers, “it is possible that information about you or a genetic relative could be revealed, such as that you or a relative are carriers of a particular disease. That information could be used by insurers to deny you insurance coverage, by law enforcement agencies to identify you or your relatives, and in some places, the data could be used by employers to deny employment.

This is a massive red flag. The data “you or a genetic relative” give to AncestryDNA could be used against “you or a genetic relative” by employers, insurers, and law enforcement.

For example, a young woman named Theresa Morelli applied for individual disability insurance, consented to release of her medical records through the Medical Information Bureau (a credit reporting agency for medical history), and was approved for coverage. One month later, Ms. Morelli’s coverage was cancelled and premiums refunded when the insurer learned her father had Huntington’s disease, a genetic illness.

Oh tf wow

Ancestry.com is the woooorst. Don’t use them ever. 

They also are owned by the LDS church, and get all their genealogy information for the genealogy work the members are pressured to do to make sure their extended family (and all of humankind) gets eternal saving ordinances. The church coerces people into providing free labor in genealogy research under the threat of losing your family in eternity if you don’t. They then take that free labor, aggregate it, and sell it for a profit through Ancestry.com. 



Ancestry.com exploits the free labor of people to sell it, and also exploits your DNA test results to sell them, so that people can exploit you based on the results of those tests, and they make you pay for the privilege. 

Don’t ever touch that fucking company. 

Yikes yikes yikes.



you know how some people having resting bitch face? i have resting dissociation face. people ask me on the reg if i am like okay or dying or what because my neutral expression is just a vacant stare with a hint of existential dread



Just a reminder that I’m an Adult™ and if that makes you feel uncomfortable feel free to:

  • unfollow me
  • ask me to unfollow you
  • block me

I won’t get mad or anything. It’s important to make sure you feel comfortable and secure.

I’m gonna add to this by saying: you can block people who haven’t done anything “wrong” just because you don’t want to see them. You can block anyone you want for any reason. Blocking isn’t a punishment or a severe/extreme last resort you have to justify. It’s just curation of what you see, for yourself, and you don’t ever have to feel bad about doing it just because you feel like it!

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